Eight Unique Ways to Help Your Husband Relax
Posted on 22 September 2008 by cory
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Ladies, this one is for you. When your dear, sweet husband is getting on your nerves because he is so tense, or he’s getting all up in your business and you need some time alone, you might try one of these brilliant moves.
Guys, this one is for you. Do yourselves a favor, and email this article to your wives. Heck, print it off and give it to her if you have to.
Sex. Most wives have experienced the post sex snore. Besides the fact that sex often occurs at night when it’s easy to fall asleep, sex is a lot of physical work, and during orgasm, men’s brains release a chemical known as prolactin, which is present in people’s brains in high amounts during sleep. As a side note, four times as much prolactin is released during intercourse as there is during masturbation. In other words, wives, we really do need your help on this one.
Video Games. Racing games, puzzles, RPG’s, first person shooters – don’t understand any of that terminology? That’s okay. Odds are, your husband does. About 80% of video game players are men ages 18 – 35. Obviously video games are not just the realm of little boys any more. Guys use the gaming time as a way to forget responsibilities and pressures that are weighing them down. If you don’t like to play games with him, sit him down in front of the TV or pack him into the car and send him to a friend’s house and tell him not to come back until he’s achieved at least level 25 on Xbox Live’s Halo 3.
Sports. We all need exercise in order to release muscle tension, but some guys need more physical activity to relax. A weekly basketball game, a flag football pickup game, racquetball, tennis…heck, ping pong might even do the trick. Guys brains get engaged when they play sports and after a couple hours of physical exertion, there’s all those endorphins flowing and it’s a lot easier to sit down and listen to you talk. Get him a gym membership and drop him off on your way to the spa.
Manual Labor. Does your husband have a mini wood-working shop in the garage? Does he like to garden? Does he like to build things with his hands? If he’s getting cranky you might be able to kill two birds with one stone: tell him to go to Lowe’s, pick up some lumber, and build that impenetrable fortress for the chickens that you haven’t yet told him you’re going to raise.
Watching TV/Movies. An hour or two of watching his favorite crime drama or sporting event can put your man in a better mood. Tell him to stop picking at the food on the stove and go relax in front of the TV. He might even be grateful.
Fishing. Don’t ask me why, but for some reason many guys associate fishing with relaxation. While I may not understand it, there’s something to be said for being in a quiet place in the woods next to a lake. Of course, if you catch something, that’s not really very relaxing. Perhaps it has something to do with all of the beer that my stepdad drank while he was out “fishing.”
Food. As the saying goes, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Besides tryptophan-laced turkey, there are lots of other foods that can induce a relaxed state of being. Do you know your husband’s favorite recipes? Do you make them? Secret trick: find out what foods your mother-in-law used to make for your husband as a little boy and make those on occasion – your husband will adore you. Just remember to make it the way mom made it.
Pulling us away from work. Some of us really like to work. Even when we say that we’re going to not work, we think about work. It’s probably even part of one of the qualities you like in your husband. Sometimes even the work we like stresses us out though. Pull your man away from the computer, make him stand up from the desk, take away his Crackberry, and push him into one of the other activities above.
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September 22nd, 2008 at 8:44 pm
Chris likes numbers 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 7. And seeing as how he let me interrupt his work to read him this article, I’m gonna add number 8!
September 23rd, 2008 at 12:27 am
I could use a little pull away from work more often! My kids tend to do this for me too, but at times, it’s hard to let go of unfinished stuff.
September 25th, 2008 at 8:55 pm
Love your list and there is something on there for all of us. I would add #9: solitude time. Wives love to talk and sometimes the only way to relax is to be by myself. This doesn’t mean that we don’t love you, want to ever talk with you again, that you’re driving us crazy. It just means that sometimes we need to go into our caves and when we resurface, we’ll be relaxed, refreshed and ready to listen again. It’s been said that a man has a need to use 3,000 words a day while a woman needs to expend 10,000. There’s nothing wrong with this difference. In fact, let’s celebrate the difference, but sometimes I’ve used all my words up before I even get home from work. A little time in the cave is all I need.
September 26th, 2008 at 11:38 am
great article that I am passing on to my wife. She better learn from the first two tips!
solitude time is great as well! I would even recipricate and let wife have a little alone time. But she’d have to leave the house as our kids don’t give her a chance to relax
September 30th, 2008 at 7:59 pm
Thanks for the link and for following up on my suggestion.
I was a little saddened to note that sex seemed to be the only item where a husband could relax with his wife. All the others seemed to pull him away or out of the house, unless she plays video games.
“…four times as much prolactin is released during intercourse as there is during masturbation” — Finally, I understand! Now I just need to find four times as much prolactin for women.
January 30th, 2011 at 9:38 pm
My Wife & I both read the his/hers version of this, mabey after our son goes to bed tonight, we can work on our romance part of ten years of marriage (I hope)!